It's Okay To Ask For Help
Do you know what word I hate the most? I hate should because of all of the connotations that come along with it, especially for moms. Before you’re a mom all you see are loving commercials of sleeping babies and sitcoms with children all above the age of five.
And so when you do get your bundle of joy and things are not going the way they should we panic. But what is should for a mom and who decided it?
Sometimes when we need help the most we are reluctant to ask because we feel like we should be able to handle everything. We should be able to keep a spotless home, have quality time with the children, look good, work and cook a free range, organic meal.
But truthfully, not many women can pull this off everyday, and it’s okay to ask for help when you need it. Asking for help is not a sign of weakness but of maturity. Allowing yourself to rest and recharge is in your best interest.
Mothers are quite literally “care-givers” and there are times when we are the ones in need of care. We need self-care, spousal-care, social-care. There are all kinds of care everyone needs, so don’t discount your own.
I read an article recently and I cannot for the life of me remember who it was about. But it was a celebrity and in an interview someone asked her how she got everything done as a mom and actress. She laughed and said, “I have a nanny.”
No one is perfect. You may not be able to afford a full time nanny, I can’t, but maybe you can get a babysitter during the day twice a week. Perhaps your husband or mom or dad can pick up the kids one day. Maybe you can delegate some of the work at the office or work from home one day a week. Can you afford a cleaner once every two weeks?
Don’t wait until you are frazzled, burned out or simply exhausted before you cry out. Build in some ways and times to allow your mind, body and soul to be refreshed. Even an hour in the evenings to sit quietly and journal can make a big impact.
It really is okay to ask for help.